Olivia is 5 years old. As her mummy, of course I can claim all I want that she is a special and sweet little girl. She is my best friend. I spend most of my time with her. We do squabble. She thinks, I am bossy (quite right) and most of the time, I think her listening ears are not switched on. But, we’re a good team too.
I noticed that she gets more clingy with her daddy. Every time her dad leaves for work or comes home from work, it is VERY important to kiss and hug her first before me. It becomes a competition and she has to be the winner.
There are times she goes into a crying fit when my husband will go out even some short trip to a shop or supermarket, she has to go with him.
Most mornings when she gets up, she normally join us in our bed and she goes in the middle to have a cuddle. Now, she goes on her daddy’s side for a cuddle. If her daddy is already up, she go downstairs. I do get the odd “good morning, mummy. I will just go and see daddy for a cuddle. I will come back for you”. But, she never did until, I’ll call her and that even takes forever.
Am I jealous? Yes. Am I hurting? Yes. I am. My little best friend turned her back on me. I might be taking this personally but, it’s a normal feeling. We all do love feeling wanted, right?
I vent all these to my best friend and I’m glad I did. This is totally a normal stage that every kid goes through. For girls, it’s called Electra complex -girls psychosexual competition with her mother for possession of her father. Whereas the opposite (boys) is called Oedipus complex.
One time, we were playing together and Olivia said “I love daddy more than you na na na na. I know she was joking. I know kids her age doesn’t know or pushing the boundaries, but it made me cry that even made her cry and upset for saying it.
Not just that, there are some family routine to consider too. My case, I am the one that spend more time with Olivia due to her daddy’s work. So, when daddy’s home, she has to make up for the time she missed.
So, if you’re a mum like me that is going through this, don’t worry. It is normal and it doesn’t mean that our little girl loves us any less. We are the light in our kid’s heart and definitely hold a big special place in there. They will always be daddy’s little girl, no matter what.